For me, the meaning of life is meeting people. When I discovered your blog, something pulled me towards it again and again, and I was so happy when we started to talk to communicate. I found Nico an incredible woman, whom I immediately liked and honored. To my delight, she also got something back from our conversations, and she eventually started to write for “free psychology”. Since then, she has published a lot of interesting posts about psychology. She has written her personal story, but also manage to integrate it with theory and own thoughts, and I admire that. For me, she`s an example of how it`s possible to truly follow your dreams, no matter where you come from.
I just want to thank you, Nico, for all the wonderful posts you`ve produced so far, and look forward to a conversation on skype. I`m glad I met you…
“You have this spot that you can’t see past. My grams and gramps had it, the spot where they were taught they were disconnected from everything . . . and how beautiful they really are. And that there’s no need to hide, or lie. And that it’s possible to talk to someone without any lies, with no sarcasms, no deceptions, no exaggerations or any of the things that people use to confuse the truth.” ~Powder
Something that mainstream society has taken from the inherent faculties of human relationships and interaction is honesty. Mainstream society has replaced the innate characteristic of honesty with dishonesty, lies, and deception. In society, dishonesty is revered, rewarded, and esteemed as a self-defense mechanism, whereas a characteristic as simple as honesty is too often associated with simple-mindedness or the unfiltered naivete associated with innocence of childhood. This is almost ridiculous. That somehow once we have matured to adulthood, honesty must be traded for being jaded and bitterness, more “adult” traits. Rather, we become extremely insecure, tall babies.
We have been conditioned to believe that we cannot be honest or we will be hurt and abandoned, ultimately by society (as society has taught us that we will lose our social base, our social network). Society assures us that the only way to be secure is to hide, even from ourselves. This is a fallacy and a delusion. The way to break from that conditioned habit of thinking is to first be honest with yourself. Once we accept that we are not our jobs, or our pre-conceived or insecure identities, we can recognize that we are really just afraid. And we are all afraid; a more protected and locked down society does not and will not alleviate that fear.
We are human beings, imbibed with consciousness. Honesty is one of the only ways to have lasting interaction and to know that we are conscious beings. We have nothing to be afraid of… and everything to gain by living.